It's hard to explain this to neighbours as you walk around the block, and also makes you "stand out" at parties when you are the only one who is sitting. It's also awkward at those meet and mingle type professional sorts of meetings. All the activity is going on 2 feet above your head if you are sitting.
My husband hates to park us in the disabled spots because, as an able bodied person, he gets the fishy eye. But he does it anyway and that helps when I need it. Usually in a large parking lot he will drop me and then pick me up at the door so then we don't use it.
If I needed to use a cane it would be one with the specially molded hand grips for people with hand trouble.
However even those are too difficult to grip so I use the forearm crutch sometimes called a "Canadian crutch". That way I can lean on it as well. I have used crutches like this through 3 foot operations and they are easy on the hands. It's worth getting them if you have hand problems.
It's hard to use a walking aid. There's a huge psychlogical barrier and it feels as though you are branding yourself as a disabled person. But sometimes it just signals that you have a problem and it suddenly makes your invisible illness a very visible thing to people
It does the talking for you and makes a good short cut for help and understanding with mobility problems.